Izifundo zoBomi ezi-7 ezifundiwe kwinqanaba likaMama 4 imeko yomhlaza

Ngemini efana nale; umzimba kamama ulele ebhedini yasesibhedlele. Uphila kancinci.

Isifuba sakhe siyashukuma kwaye sijijitheka ziintlungu ezifana nezo zomntwana omncinci ohlaselwa sisifuba.

Ulusu lwakhe lumnyama kwaye luthambile. Kwaye izidlele zakhe zitshone - zinzulu kangangokuba uya kubona i-cheekbones kunye nemihlathi yakhe ephuma kwiifom ze-skeleton. 

Ngokungafaniyo nokugqibela kwam ukumbona kwaye ndithetha naye ebhedini enye yesibhedlele; kwesi isihlandlo ebengakwazi nokuvula amehlo ukundijonga.

Wayesele eza kufa.

Ndiye ndambamba iinyawo zakhe bezibanda. Kodwa ngokholo nethemba kuThixo ophilisa abagulayo bendizixelela ukuba umama uzophila.

UMama ebebuya ahambe kwakhona. Wayewubetha umhlaza abuyele ekhaya - kuba naxa iintlungu zesibindi zakhe zaziqatha, wayesoloko enqwenela ukuba abuyele ekhaya.

I visiting hours yaphela ndahamba.

Kwafuneka ndilale kwangethuba ukuze ndivuke kuqala indiza eya eNairobi.

Yiloo nto ucwangciso lwam olutsha beluyiyo oko wangeniswa kweso sibhedlele.

Sebenza eNairobi ukusuka ngoMvulo ukuya ngoLwesihlanu, thatha inqwelomoya eya eKisumu ngokuhlwa ngoLwesihlanu, kwaye ubhabhe ubuyele eNairobi kusasa ngoMvulo ukuya emsebenzini.

Kodwa olu suku lwaluza kwahluka.

Ndandifumana umnxeba owoyikekayo ezinzulwini zobusuku usithi siphulukene naye. Wayengasekho. Imiphunga yakhe yayimile kwaye intliziyo yomile.

Ndiphulukene nayo. Ndabanda. Kwaye andizange ndilile. Khange ndimvuse nomkam. Kwaye ubusuku bonke, ndahlala ebumnyameni. 

Uwedwa.

Kwigumbi lam lokuhlala - ndingeva kukulunywa ziingcongconi ezilambileyo ezisecaleni kwechibi okanye ukuva i-buzz yazo.

Ingqondo yam yayingacingi nto ngaphandle kwaloo mizuzu yokugqibela.

Ndahlala ndizigxeka ukuba kutheni ndingakhange ndithethe naye. Kwakutheni ukuze ndingavele ndicinge ukuba uyandimamela yaye ndimxelela nantoni na.

Isizathu sokuba sihlale silawula ingqondo yam 

Intliziyo yam yaba buhlungu kakhulu. Usizi. Intlungu. Nentlungu.

Xa kuthi qheke ukusa, saya esibhedlele ukuze umzimba usiwe kwindawo yokugcina izidumbu. Yaye kanye xa ndabona umntakwethu uPeter namanye amadoda bephakamisa loo mzimba ungaphiliyo, ndalila.

Khange ndiphinde ndikwazi ukuyibamba  

Andizange ndazana netshomi endiyithanda njengalamfazi.

Kwakutheni ukuze ahambe ngokukhawuleza? Ngoba?

Ebendishiya nabani? Ndingaphinde ndimbone? Ndajonga isidumbu sakhe ndamkhalela. Engenazintloni zokuba ngubani ojongileyo.

Ndandiswelekelwe ngumhlobo. Umama. Enkosi ngalo mbandela.

Kwaye eyona ndawo ibuhlungu? Andizange ndilifumane ithuba lokumxelela ukuba uhambe kakuhle.

Ngomso siza kubhiyozela ubomi bakhe. Isikhumbuzo siya kubhiyozelwa egameni lakhe.

Kwaye xa oko kusenzeka, ndifuna ukukufundisa izinto ezimbalwa endizifundileyo kwimeko yomhlaza wenqanaba lesi-4 likamama.

Izifundo zoBomi ezi-9 ezifundiwe kwinqanaba likaMama 4 imeko yomhlaza

1. Nceda Abantu Xa Unako Kwaye Uyakuncediswa Xa Ungakwazi

Alikho ixesha lokuba ndihambe ndaya kwigumbi likamama esibhedlele kwaye andifumananga umhlobo wakudala endindwendwele. Kwakusoloko kukho umntu ohamba naye.

• Ukumkhuthaza,
• ethandaza kunye naye, okanye ngamanye amaxesha ukumpha ukutya.

Ngaxa lithile xa amatyala esibhedlele ayemaninzi kakhulu, omnye wabahlobo bakhe wasothusa ukuba siyihlawule yonke loo nto.

Ngoku, andiqinisekanga ukuba umama wamnceda njani lo mfazi xa wayesaphila; nokuba uthe wamnceda, nokuba uthe wamncedisa; isenzo sakhe esilungileyo sahlawulwa kunye nembuyekezo yesenzo esihle.

2. Abanye abantu bayakuzama ukuthatha i-advanteji yemeko yakho. Ungabavumeli

Ngenxa yokugula kukamama, ndadibana nabantu abaninzi kakhulu endandingasoze ndidibane nabo – abahlobo, usapho, neentshaba ngokufanayo.

Unokucinga ukuba wonke umntu ulapha ukuze anikele inkxaso. kunjalo. Ezezimali okanye ngokweemvakalelo besiyidinga.

Kwavela ukuba abanye abantu beza kuxhaphaza nangona kunjalo.

Ukuthatha ithuba lemeko kwaye bacebise ezinye iimveliso zamachiza abathi, ngendlela, bazisebenzisa kuyisemkhulu ogulayo owayesasweleka.

Kwaye uyazibuza ukuba ingaba amayeza abo angenza ntoni. Ngabantu abanje endifuna ukubabona namhlanje kwaye babethe.

3. Umama Wakho Uya Kuhlala EnguMama Wakho - Kodwa myeke uTata wakho abe nguTata wakho naye

Ngaba wakha wathandwa, kangangokuba waziva uthandwa?

Ndandiziva ngolo hlobo xa ndiphakathi kukamama.

Kwaye ngenxa yokuba wayendazisa imihla ngemihla ukuba uyandithanda; Ndiye ndahlala ndizikhumbula kwade kwasemva xa ndandineminyaka emithathu ubudala.

Ngemini yam yokuqala ndibuya eskolweni ndahlala ecakwakhe. 

Uye wandanga ngathi uzomgona umntu omkhumbulayo.

Ubudlelwane bethu bebuqinile kangangokuba ndamxelela izinto amadoda angama-Afrika azoxelela ootata bawo kuphela. Kwaye ngoku sele emkile kwaye andinaye omnye umntu endinokuzityand’ igila kuye-ngokuzithemba njengoko ndenza kuye, ndimosha yonke imihla.

Ndayithetha kakhulu ngomama ixesha elide kangangokuba ndisazama ukuthetha notata xa ndineengxaki zobuqu.

4. Usapho Oluthandaza Kunye Luhlala Kunye 

Ngaba ukhe watyhalelwa kude kangaka eludongeni kodwa usasibona isandla sikaThixo esolulele ngakuwe?

Hayi?

Elona xesha lide asizange sithandaze. Sabuthatha ubomi ngokungakhathali. Kwaye xa umama efuna ukuya ecaweni, wayehamba yedwa. Ngokuba, heyi,

Sasisazi ukuba wayethandazela wonke umntu entsatsheni yaye wayecinga ukuba kwanele.

Wade walala ebhedini sabe singenamntu wokusithandazela.

Saze sakhumbula, owu, kukho le nto kuthiwa ngumthandazo, kunjani ukuba siyizame.

Kuthe ngenye imini sagqiba ekubeni sihlangane silusapho (utata kunye nathi) – sizame lento kuthiwa ngumthandazo sabambana ngezandla sathandaza.

Nangona umthandazo wethu ungazange umphilise, eso senzo sokuhlanganisana nokubambana ngezandla busuku ngabunye sasomelela ngakumbi kunangaphambili.

5. Izibhedlele zoMhlaza eKisumu ziScam

Sukuxoka ukuba kukho isibhedlele somhlaza eKisumu.

Ezo zibhedlele zomhlaza zikhona nje ukuqokelela imali yakho ngelixa ugcina isigulana sakho sifakwe kwi-morphine. 

Funda: Izibhedlele zeMhlaza eziBalaseleyo kwiHlabathi

6. Imiba yoBudlelwane – iSifundo soBomi esiBalulekileyo

Kukho amaxesha emva kokuba ndihambile umama wafowuna esithi Hi.

Ngamanye amaxesha wayemane efowuna ekwazi ukuba luhambe njani usuku lwam.

Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha wayemane efowuna ngaphandle kwesizathu konke konke. 

Ngalo maxesha wayesithi, “Adwa mana winjo duondi.” Bendifuna ukuva ilizwi lakho then avale umnxeba.

Xa ndijonga emva, ndiziva ngathi ngamanye amaxesha bendizithatha lula ezo fowuni

Khange ndikhethe xa “ndixakekile”. Kwaye andizange ndifowune xa “ndilibele.”

Namhlanje nangona, nokuba ngumzuzu nje, ndingabeka iifowuni zakhe phambi komsebenzi, phambi kwebhlog yam, phambi kwekhompyuter yam, nangaphambi kwayo nayiphi na enye into.

#Ulawulo lobudlelwane

7. Abantwana Bakho Ayingowe – Isifundo soBomi esiBalulekileyo

Phakathi kwabantu ababehlala ecaleni kwebhedi kamama wam owayegula yayingumakhulu wam ozala umama.

Wayesoloko ekhalazela ukuba kutheni umhlaza kufuneka uthathe intombi yakhe ngokukhawuleza.

Ndide ndikrokre ukuba xa kusenzeka ishwangusha ebeza kuthatha indawo kamama athwale intlungu.

Into angazange ayiqonde kukuba, akangomama.

Wayemthanda, wamxhasa, wahlala ecaleni kwakhe kwada kwasekupheleni. Kodwa andikwazanga ukumtshintsha. Yayibubomi bukamama ukuba baphile. Kwaye ngoku wayephila kwimizuzu yokugqibela.

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